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What do You think? Another win for women's sexual liberation? Or, where does it go from here? No pants at all?? Let us know in the comments below!
By New York Writer David Futrelle
James Jackson had a plan. Traveling by Bolt Bus from his home in Baltimore to New York City, the 28-year-old Jackson hoped to strike a blow for the beleaguered white race by carrying out a bloody massacre of black men in Times Square, using a two-foot sword he’d brought with him for the occasion.
He didn’t get that far, turning himself in to NYC police after stalking, stabbing, and killing 66-year-old can collector Timothy Caughman in midtown in a “trial run” for the planned massacre. In a jailhouse interview, he told the New York Daily News that the murder had been a mistake. He had intended to kill a “young thug” or “a successful older black man” out with a blonde, an act he somehow thought would scare “white girls” away from black men.
It’s not hard to see where Jackson picked up at least some of his noxious views. He was, he told the Daily News, a regular reader of the neo-Nazi website the Daily Stormer; on YouTube he subscribes to the channels of a vast assortment of alt-rightists and fellow travelers, from Hitler-worshiping revisionist “historians” who call themselves things like Esoteric Truth and the Impartial Truth to conspiracy-addled right-wingers like Alex Jones and the resolutely anti-feminist, anti-Muslim YouTube “philosopher” Stefan Molyneux.
But what is equally disturbing is that Jackson also subscribes to a vast collection of channels promoting the “Men Going Their Own Way” movement, a more radical and openly hateful version of men’s-rights activism, sans even the pretense of activism. MRAs may do precious little actual activism in the real world, but they do have a range of issues that they discuss on a regular basis, some of them legitimate issues they have seized upon largely for propaganda purposes (like male suicide and workplace safety), others generated from their own paranoid fantasies (the supposed epidemic of false rape accusations that leaves every man at risk of being jailed based on nothing more than a woman’s word).
MGTOWs, as they are known, have largely abandoned these issues to focus almost entirely on the airing of grievances. They claim to proudly reject women, but seem to spend most of their time obsessing over them, spouting endless rants about the alleged evils of women on YouTube and assorted online forums. Jackson subscribes to the channels of popular MGTOWs bar bar, Thinking-Ape, and Sandman, as well as many lesser-known names.
While MGTOWs and alt-rightists regularly spar with one another online, the two movements now appear to be converging, with alt-rightists increasingly spouting anti-feminist, anti-women talking points familiar to anyone who has paid attention to the men’s-rights movement; meanwhile, more and more MGTOWs are becoming less shy about expressing their racism, with many openly identifying with the alt-right.
The two movements are drawn together by a shared obsession with, and paranoia about, the sexuality of women.
White supremacists have, of course, long sought to “protect their women” — that is, all white women — from the sexuality of black men. In the several heydays of the Klan, southern whites lynched literally thousands of black men based on accusations of rape that were often wholly false, intended to punish those who willingly crossed the sexual color line.
Alt-rightists today remain obsessed with “race mixing.” The Daily Stormer, in its troll-ish but completely sincere style, rails against miscegenation in posts with titles like “Exposing the Race-Mixing Agenda” and “Tom Hanks’ Jigaboo Granddaughter Reminds Us Why Race-Mixing Shouldn’t Happen.” With something close to glee, the site regularly mocks “mudsharking” white women who end up brutalized by their black boyfriends.
In a post last year, Daily Stormer editor Andrew Anglin declared that racists like him react with “a lot of anger” to white women who have children with black men “because it’s OUR WOMB — that’s right, it doesn’t belong to her, it belongs to the males in her society — that is being used to produce an enemy soldier.”
As racists like Anglin see it, when white women become sexually involved with black men they are in effect cuckolding all white men. This insecurity about “race cucking” is undoubtedly the main reason alt-right men are so fond of calling other men “cucks” — a handy way to project their own anxieties onto others.
Anglin assures his readers that the anger they feel about “race mixing” is perfectly natural. “[W]hen you see women with non-Whites, it’s a biological response that you’re having,” he writes. “Women’s eggs are infinitely more valuable than men’s sperm. So there is an inborn drive in men to constantly protect women. And when you see them with non-Whites, you immediately respond negatively.”
Tellingly, Anglin feels no such anger about white men in relationships with black women. While “gross” and wrong, he explains, this “weird fetish … doesn’t trigger the same visceral reaction when you see it, because in terms of the survival of the race, it doesn’t make any difference.”
It seems fairly clear that the relative values of eggs and sperm have little to do with Anglin’s reaction. Black men dating white women trigger his sexual insecurities; white men dating black women don’t.
MGTOWs are similarly obsessed with women having sex with men other than them. While MRA complaints — especially those involving alleged “false rape accusations” — often reek of sexual insecurity and aggrieved sexual entitlement, MGTOWs seem to be motivated by little other than their own sexual anxieties and resentments. In comment sections and YouTube videos they regularly hash and rehash what is perhaps the central MGTOW myth, that of the “cock carousel.”
As MGTOWs see it, women in their prime live in a state of sexual overabundance and endless male affirmation, flitting from alpha male to alpha male in an endless utopia of casual sex — riding that so-called “carousel.”
Meanwhile, the overwhelming majority of men in their teens and early 20s live in a parched sexual desert, scorned by women, who have eyes only for the studly and confident jocks that have become known, at least among the bitter young misogynists of the internet, as “Chads,” short for “Chad Thundercock.” Young women consider him far more exciting than the genuine “nice guys” who remain trapped in an extended period of involuntary celibacy because their shallow female counterparts can’t see just how deserving of love and sex they are. MGTOWs see themselves as the innocent victims of a grave sexual injustice, essentially cuckolded by the lucky minority of men who get to enjoy sex with women still in their “prime.”
All this changes when these young women “hit the wall” — that is, hit the magical age in their late 20s or thereabouts when their youthful allure begins to fade. Deprived of easy sex they had previously enjoyed with an endless succession of Chads, these no-longer-young women, now desperate, do their best to attract the attention of the kind and hardworking “beta males” they’ve been ignoring for years.
On the forums at MGTOW.com, a fellow calling himself Geeves complains of one ex-girlfriend who gave her “best years” to Chad instead of him.
“[S]he was 24-25 when she was with this guy,” he grouses. “Her prime age of looks and reproductive abilities. He got her in her prime that mother fucker. Then when her clock started ticking and she wanted to settle down and have a family, she meets me. And I’m supposed to get a ring, pay for a wedding, honeymoon and be her slave the rest of her life? FUCK THAT!”
The fact that the “cock carousel” myth bears virtually no resemblance to anything that actually happens in the real world does not in any way undercut the fervency of MGTOWs’ belief in it. Or the anger it helps to nurture within them.
MGTOWs are generally young white men stewing in their own aggrieved entitlement, and Chad is always envisioned as another white guy. But he has a black counterpart — a young fellow that the casually racist MGTOWs have labeled “Tyrone,” basically identical to the “young thugs” that Jackson, in the real world, planned to kill.
With the alt-right still in the ascendancy, the racism in the MGTOW movement is growing more obvious and more extreme. You can see this clearly in several of the channels Jackson subscribes to on YouTube. The YouTuber who identifies himself as The Angry MGTOW more than lives up to the name, literally shouting out endless half-hour rants. The most popular of these, with hundreds of thousands of views, are diatribes calling out white women for a multitude of sins, including the cardinal sin of dating black men.
YouTuber Xpall Odoc, meanwhile, identifies himself as both a MGTOW and an alt-rightist; he believes white women, too childish to make their own decisions, need to be expressly forbidden from even socializing with black men.
On MGTOW forums like Reddit’s Men Going Their Own Way subreddit, it’s similarly obvious that the alt-right is leaking in. In one recent discussion of cuckoldry, a Reddit MGTOW offers some thoughts that would not sound out of place at some drunken Klan after-party.
“Even married women who proclaim how pure and innocent they are, will fuck some thug convict or dump whomever she married to chase some jackass,” T0000009 complains. “Females [don’t] give a fuck about culture or society, their family or heritage, they just want some stupid savage to breed them and it’s the only thing on their tiny mind.”
By Alice G. Walton
Though sex serves a pretty obvious functional purpose—it gets sperm cells closer to their end goal—it also serves some interesting psychological ones. A central effect of sex is that it enhances pair-bonding, the connection between the individuals having sex. And though it probably evolved for a different purpose, the “afterglow” sensation that lingers after sex seems to contribute to that bonding, a new study reports. The research, out this week in Psychological Science, finds that newlyweds who report an afterglow counted in days, rather than hours, also report more marital satisfaction months later. How this plays out years later isn’t totally clear, but it may be that afterglow is at least as important later in life as it is earlier on.
The new study tracked 215 newly wedded couples, and had them report daily for a period of two weeks whether they’d had sex that day. They also reported on how satisfied they were with their marriage in general, with their partner and with their sex life on that particular day. The team also followed up with them four to six months later to see how the were faring.
Sex was linked to sexual satisfaction on that day, and importantly, also in the 24 and 48 hours later, even if those hours didn’t contain any sex. In other words, the afterglow from one sexual experience lasted for up to two days—and the stronger their afterglow, the more likely a couple was to report being satisfied with their marriage over the next several months. As expected, marital satisfaction generally dropped a bit over the course of the study, but for those who reported stronger afterglow after sex, it dropped much less.
"Our research shows that sexual satisfaction remains elevated 48 hours after sex," said lead author Andrea Meltzer. "And people with a stronger sexual afterglow—that is, people who report a higher level of sexual satisfaction 48 hours after sex—report higher levels of relationship satisfaction several months later…. This research is important because it joins other research suggesting that sex functions to keep couples pair bonded."
Afterglow also serves a less romantic and more basic evolutionary purpose: It makes conception more likely to occur. The odds of conception actually rise in the two days after sex—but repeated sex in those days can actually backfire, thwarting sperms’ ascent to the cervix. So not having sex—which might be more likely if you’re still feeling afterglow from your last sexual encounter days earlier—would actually be beneficial, evolutionarily speaking.
But it’s funner for most people to enjoy the interpersonal benefits of afterglow. And interestingly, while lots of other studies have looked at how other types of interactions affect a relationship—like fighting and praise—none have looked at how the length of their aftermath affects a relationship over the long-term until now.
How the phenomenon works over time also isn’t so clear—it may change somewhat, and even expand, as couples have been together for longer. “For example, older individuals in more established relationships for whom reproduction is less important may experience a longer afterglow,” the authors write. The team's future work will look at how afterglow is linked to other things, like infidelity and whether relationships become long-term or turn into marriage.
So can you increase the length of your afterglow? It’s certainly possible, but where it comes from isn’t so clear. Afterglow may not be solely the product anything that happens in the bedroom—it may come at least as much from interactions that happen outside it.
“I would suspect that it's a little of both,” says clinical psychologist Shannon Kolakowski. “Meaning that what creates the afterglow is in part due to the positive circumstances that led to having sex, such as feelings of love and connection, having a good time together, having desire for your partner and feeling desired. And what sustains the afterglow is the sex act itself, the release of bonding chemicals in the body as well as having a shared experience to remember and enjoy, which fortifies these good feelings.”
So may be a bit of a chicken-or-egg situation. While the research is still being done, you and your partner can play around with it, and see if you can make afterglow last longer. “Do what you would do with any emotion you wish to foster,” says Kolakowski. “Notice the afterglow, and embrace it. Replay in your mind scenes that made you feel particularly bonded, or close to your partner. And try to create more opportunities in your relationship for those times to happen.”
THERE’S a growing movement of men in Australia called “Men Going Their Own Way” (MGTOW).
It’s an offshoot of the men’s rights movement but rather than getting stuck in and tackling issues, these guys have vowed to stay away from women, stop dating and not have children.
“Essentially, MGTOW is a statement about living life your way rather than trying to make a woman happy or being a slave to cultural expectations,” one NSW member says.
“This isn’t about a specific rule book, more a mindset, although there are purists in the movement who are the most extreme and avoid women entirely. There’s a growing number of men who’ve had enough — enough of feminism and enough of being told they have to work for a greater good, which doesn’t actually exist.”
Start looking into this “manosphere” and it’s like going down a rabbit hole — happiness here is supposedly freedom.
And shunning relationships is now seeping through to the younger generation.
Tom*, 15, from NSW is what you could call the growing number of TGTOW (Teens Going Their Own Way).
“It’s probably not true of all women, but I’ve got the feeling that women are dangerous. Maybe the men around me have just had bad experiences,” he tells news.com.au.
“It’s scary being a teenage boy; I’m not sure how it’s all meant to fit together in the future,” says Tom.
“Last year, my uncle lost everything because his wife of 40 years decided she didn’t love him anymore. Just like that, she randomly got up and left. It got nasty and he lost everything — his house, cars and loads of his money. There’s no way I’m ever getting married.”
Of course, teenage boys look at other males in their life to gather some perspective on life. Seeing an older brother go through the trauma of false allegations in a messy breakup can also leave scars.
Tom says, “My older brother, who’s 20, was dating a girl for a few months. She turned really nasty in the breakup and made a string of allegations to the police. That made me suspicious of women too. My brother’s a good guy.
“Why should she be able to just say what she wants, accuse him of anything and then get on with her life like that? It doesn’t seem fair to me. I’m not sure what rights I have. Maybe none?”
So, what has gone wrong? Why are young people not seeing happy futures with a partner — or even setting a goal for family life?
Author and psychologist Meredith Fuller says, “None of these views surprise me because I hear them all the time — each time it strikes me as incredibly sad. We have a younger generation who are chaotic and rudderless; they have no role models, no mentors and no sense of where they fit into society.
“It’s crucial that we encourage our children find a mentor — a teacher, a relative or someone who teaches them sport — someone who they can communicate with, talk honestly to and learn skills about healthy relationships,” she says.
“Both sexes have different challenges; we’ve lost sight of that. We’re stuck in a gender war and it’s harming our children. It’s become very narcissistic, selfish and a sense of entitlement is running rife.
“We need to get a focus back on having respect for other human beings, for partnerships, loving bonds and trust rather than simply seeing what you can get out of a relationship.
“Children need to learn that sense of give and take; they need to be taught about delayed gratification. Life is not all about self; it’s not all about making yourself happy instantly and constantly. And it’s not about running away from the opposite sex, it’s about learning to communicate effectively and genuine caring.”
* Name has been changed to protect identity.
There’s a great scene in the 1977 film “Annie Hall” in which a therapist asks the main character Alvy (played by Woody Allen) how often he and his live-in girlfriend Annie (played by Diane Keaton) have sex. Alvy answers, “Hardly ever, maybe three times a week.”
Then the film, in a split screen, cuts to the same therapist asking Annie how often she and Alvy have sex, to which she replies, “All the time, like three times a week.”
The message couldn’t be more obvious: When it comes to sex, men and women have very different needs. This used to be something people understood (my mother told me as much when I was young, although I didn’t believe her), but in a culture that insists the sexes are “equal,” as in the same, that understanding has vanished. As a result, so has any sympathy for men’s unique sexual desire.
Here’s a great way to explain the difference between a man’s attitude toward sex and a woman’s: How many men do you know who’d be offended if a woman told him she’d like to use his body for sex? Now turn that scenario around. If a man told a woman he’d like to use her body for sex, it would be grounds for sexual harassment. Apples and oranges.
There’s a Disconnect Between the Sexes on SexMy favorite description of the male sex drive was explained in the book “Letters to My Daughters,” by former political consultant Mary Matalin. In it, Matalin shares a funny anecdote about her mother, who once said to Mary, “Men would screw a snake if it would sit still long enough.” That had me in stitches!
We don’t laugh at messages like this anymore (well, clearly I do). Instead, we’re hostile toward the idea that a wife should have sex with her husband if she isn’t “in the mood.” But most women’s sexual desire isn’t as dire at most men’s. From a physiological standpoint, a woman’s sex drive is tied to her menstrual cycle, whereas a man’s is fairly constant. Moreover, a man doesn’t need much preparation for sex, whereas a woman prefers romance and foreplay first. So by all accounts, there’s a disconnect.
The way we connect as men and women is simply different. For a man, sex is his number one mode of communication. A woman is more emotionally expressive and nurturing and, as a result, seeks intimacy via cuddling, talking, and so forth. It’s not that women don’t like sex or that men never want to talk, it’s that these respective desires differ in their intensity.
For Men, Sex Is CommunicationAs a rule, men communicate via sex. Via action. Your husband isn’t being insulting when you walk by and he grabs your butt. He’s not being rude when he turns some innocuous statement you made into something sexual. (If I had a dollar for every time that happens in our house!) He’s trying to get close to you. So let him. If he didn’t do those things, you’d have a problem on your hands.
That’s not to say all men and all women have the exact same sex drive. But it is to say there’s a general rule or framework at play. In the same way women need to talk, to release whatever’s on our minds, men need a release of a different sort. But that release isn’t just a physical act any more than your need to talk is just a physical act. When you talk to your husband and he gives you his undivided attention, that makes you feel loved, doesn’t it?
It’s the same way for men. Your husband wants to have sex with you because that’s how he feels loved. And it’s how he shows his love for you. If you hold this against him, or if you deny him the ability to show you his love, you’re effectively telling him you don’t love him. Ergo, to turn your husband down in bed is akin to telling him you need to talk to him about something and him responding, “Sorry, not interested.”
That this is true doesn’t mean wives need to be sex slaves (although the culture will insist otherwise). All it means is that women need to be sympathetic toward the fact that men’s sexual needs differ from theirs. If we reject this fact outright, bad things happen, as sociologist Catherine Hakim wrote about here. Men’s increased libido, she says, is like “hunger”: it cannot be ignored. Testosterone is powerful stuff.
Indeed, women who take testosterone to transition to a male appearance “always say within a day, ‘I wanted to go out and f*** everyone and fight everyone.’” She adds, “I have met young men who have said that hormonal lust was such a problem for them that it should be possible to go to the doctor and get chemicals to tone them down. It had infected all their relationships. Men know it’s for real.”
Smart women do, too.
By Cody Boteler
Next time you start swiping on Tinder or get ready to go out on a Friday night, you might want to prepare with some extra … protection. Why? Because a new survey from Superdrug Online Doctor showed that over 65% of Americans have sex without using a condom.
“While we can’t really speculate back and forth, it was kind of surprising with it being 2017, we thought sex ed might be more prevalent,” Krista Bowman, a spokeswoman for the creative team at Superdrug Online Doctor, a service that provides mail order prescriptions and services including contraceptives and treatments for some STI’s, told USA TODAY College. “It looks to be, overall, that the majority of people are having unprotected sex.”
Very few people use condoms regularly, the survey shows.
The survey, which was done online with 1,000 Americans and 1,000 Europeans, also showed that of people who said they would be “devastated” by an unplanned pregnancy, 19% still said they had sex without a condom “every single time,” with a further 15% saying they had sex without a condom “almost every time.”
If you’d be “devastated” by an accidental pregnancy, why don’t you use a condom every time?
Oh, and Europeans aren’t much better than Americans: Over 55% of Europeans are avoiding condom use too.
Sexually active people don’t seem too focused on avoiding sexually transmitted infections, either:
Missy Ronan, the Student Government Association Director of Health & Wellness at Towson University, was shocked when she heard the results of the survey. Ronan said that people should be able to discuss sex, getting tested and protecting themselves openly and honestly.
“People know what sex does, right?” Ronan said. “I guess it’s hard because STI’s still have the connotation of being dirty, or unclean. But, really, it’s just like any other kind of testing, it’s just another test you need to have a clean bill of health.”
Bowman agreed. “From these numbers, we just want people to open up and have honest conversations about sexual health,” she said.
Megan Graves, a senior at Towson University who writes about sexual health, said she was disheartened when she heard the survey results.
“I guess it comes down to people not wanting to talk about protection,” Graves said. “That’s not the sexy part of having sex.”
This survey isn’t the first study to find a serious lack of condom use.
Which, despite what you may have heard about breaking or leaking condoms, is kind of a shame. According to data collected by Planned Parenthood, condoms are remarkably effective at pregnancy prevention when used correctly — 98% effective, in fact.
Those little rubber warriors are also effective in preventing the transmission of HIV and other sexually transmitted infections.
And it’s not that hard to get up to speed. Numerous online resources exist for the whole purpose of helping partners navigate sexual health, including a newly-launched educational service from Pornhub. The YouTube channel sexplanations features videos on all sorts of sexual health topics, including how to communicate with your partners.
Related: Trojan’s new No. 1 school for sexual health is Univ. of GeorgiaBowman, Ronan and Graves all agreed that anyone who’s going to be having sex needs to be comfortable having frank, honest conversations with their partners.
“It’s super situational,” Graves said. “I mean, if you have the time to do it, if you’re talking to somebody before you’re actually physically having sex with them, you have a window to have those conversations.”
Yeah, the conversations can be awkward, Graves said, especially if it’s with someone you just met or don’t know really well.
But, really, if you’re not comfortable having those kinds of talks but still want to be safe, that’s all the more reason to make sure you use a condom.
My friends Mandi* and Paul recently revealed that they were having a secret sexual relationship. Although I had suspected that they were attracted to one another, they always denied any involvement beyond friendship. When I asked them why they kept their relationship hidden for so long, they explained that they found their secret sexlife so exciting. They enjoyed the challenge of keeping their relationship hidden from others and delighted in the secret intimacy they shared. Why was it so exciting to keep their sexual relationship a secret? Research supports three possible explanations.
New Relationship/New Partner
When couples engage in secret sex they are usually in new relationships with new partners. Sexual satisfaction peaks during the first year of a committed relationship and declines steadily afterward (Schmiedeberg and Schröder, 2016). The excitement of secret sex may be due in part to the excitement of a new relationship partner. Sadly, increased partner familiarity can decrease both sexual arousal and sexual desire (Morton and Gorzalka, 2015). But the allure of secret sex doesn't have to involve a new partner, keeping your relationship concealed may add to the thrill and excitement of sex.
Fear of Being Discovered
When we try to keep our relationships secret, the fear of being discovered may enhance our sexual experiences. In classic research, Dutton and Aron (1974) found that individuals who were more anxious or afraid (due to crossing a high, shaky bridge or anticipating painful electric shocks) found an attractive confederate more appealing. The fear or anxiety associated with their experiences actually increased their sexual attraction to the confederate. Any type of physiological arousal can heighten our feelings of attraction (see Meston and Frohlich, 2003; White et al., 1981). The heart-pounding excitement we feel over the thought of our secret relationships being discovered may actually enhance our desire for our partners. And sharing this special secret with just one other person may be important as well.
Sharing Secrets Increases Intimacy
We are more likely to share secrets with those to whom we are close, but sharing secrets can also make us feel closer to others. Sharing increasingly intimate secrets facilitates liking among strangers (Aron et al., 1997). Furthermore, sharing secrets is associated with increased relationship satisfaction and relationship quality in romantic couples (Frijns et al., 2013; Sprecher and Hendrick, 2004). Sharing sexual secrets, especially about one's sexual desires, further increases couples’ sexual satisfaction (MacNeil and Byers, 2009). Sharing intimate secrets such as a concealed sexual relationship may increase couples’ intimate feelings towards one another.
Most secret relationships are eventually revealed, so enjoy your secret while it lasts!
Don't forget to share this post (secretly) with your secret partner!
*All names have been changed.
Sexual activity across America has dropped in recent years.
In 2014, U.S. adults were having sex an average of 53 times per year, which is nine fewer times annually than the average between 1989 and 1994, according to a new study. And the researchers found that the sexual slowdown is happening across different ages, geographic regions, races, levels of education and genders.
The steepest sexual declines over time occurred among married people, people in their 50s, people with children ages 6 to 12, people with college degrees and people who hadn't seen a pornographic movie in the past year, the study authors found. [The 10 Most Surprising Sex Statistics]
The researchers looked at data from about 26,000 adults in the U.S. across all age groups, over a 25-year period, from 1989 to 2014.
The study ruled out lingering questions from prior studies about how the use of pornography or longer working hours might affect people's sexual activity: More work and more porn usually meant more sex, the authors found.
Instead, two factors emerged as the likeliest explanations for Americans' widespread sexual slump.
Partnered or not?
The number of people in the U.S. who are not in relationships has gone up. An estimated 64 percent of Americans ages 18 to 29 were not living with a partner in 2014, up from 48 percent in 2005. And people without regular partners generally have less sex than those with a steady squeeze, study co-author Ryne Sherman, an associate psychology professor at Florida Atlantic University, told Live Science.
"Unpartnered people have sex less frequently — about half as often as partnered [people] — across the time period we looked at and across all age groups," Sherman said.
So when the percentage of unpartnered individuals in the general population increases, it's not surprising to see a drop in the amount of overall hanky-panky going on, he said.
However, the study also revealed that people in relationships were also having less sex than that group had in the past. In 2014, people with regular partners had sex about 55 times, on average, down from an average of 73 times in 1990, the scientists discovered. [The Science of Breakups: 7 Facts About Splitsville]
"Partnered people always had an advantage in sex frequency over unpartnered people, and that advantage is narrowing," Sherman said. "That was something we didn't anticipate, and we don't have great answers for why that's the case."
Slacking off at shacking up
Of all the generations represented in the study, millennials — people born between the 1980s and the early 2000s — were the least sexually active. In an earlier study, they were found to be having less sex than 20-somethings in previous generations, with about 15 percent of millennials ages 20 to 24 reporting that they had been abstinent since age 18.
Millennials may be less sexually active because many of them are living with their parents longer and taking more time to become financially independent, due to the economic downturn in the late 2000s, Sherman explained.
"That made it difficult for a lot of younger people to move out of the house, to get a job, to launch their own adulthood," he said.
However, that still doesn't explain why sexual behavior is down across all age groups and all adults. Future research efforts will attempt to puzzle out why this is happening —and what the consequences might be. Other studies have linked sex to psychological well-being, with people who have sex more frequently tending to report being happier, less depressed and less anxious. They are also less likely to suffer from psychological disorders, Sherman told Live Science.
"Of course, it's hard to determine where the causal arrow is pointing: Do I have more sex because I'm a happy person, or am I a happy person because I have more sex? It probably works both ways," Sherman said.
The findings were published online March 6 in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior.
LendEdu, a consumer finance comparison site, asked more than 3,800 millennials aged 18 to 22 if they used Tinder and a staggering 72% of them said they did. When the researchers asked them why, 22% of those Tinder users answered that they are “looking for a hookup” and 29% percent said they use the location-based app for other reasons, which likely include friendship and curiosity. And only 4% said they were “looking for a relationship.” Meanwhile, more than 44% said they were swiping for “confidence-boosting procrastination.” (A spokeswoman for Tinder said its own research found 80% of the site’s users of all ages are seeking a meaningful relationship.)
“If people are seeking a serious relationship, then they are most likely not going to use Tinder,” the study concluded. Online sites like Match.com or OkCupid, which are both owned by InterActiveCorp are more conducive to finding a long-term relationship, the researchers said. Match.com is subscription-only and OKCupid has free and premium accounts, but both have space to answer questions and will match people based on their values and preferences. Match.com charges $42 for one month or $21 a month with a one-year commitment.
Ghosting (never replying to messages) has been a problem on dating apps for quite some time now. The endless supply of fresh faces and people’s lack of leisure time make it difficult for people to ever actually go out on a date, says Jeffrey Hall, associate professor of communications at the University of Kansas. Spending a lot of time to meet Mr. or Ms. Right “decreases your chance of ever doing so,” he says. Swiping endless photos and fantasizing about each one, he adds, “is not conducive to forming a good match, and it’s not exactly a productive use of your time.”
All of this voyeurism can be expensive, if you don’t follow through. The matchmaking industry is now worth about $2.4 billion, and rises around 5% per year, with revenue split between advertising and subscription services, according to a report by research firm IBISWorld. Of that, around $1.1 billion is from online dating, $576 million is from mobile apps such as Tinder, and the rest is made up mainly of matchmakers and singles events. A decade ago, many sites were free or had minimal fees of around $20 a month. (Match.com charged $9.95 per month when it launched in 1995.).
There’s another downside to all that choice. Americans are increasingly picky when it comes to dating, particularly those who have Apple iPhones, according to a separate survey of 5,500 singletons aged 18 and over by Match.com, which was released last month. iPhone owners are 21 times more likely to judge others negatively for having an Android, while those who have an Android are 15 times more likely to judge others negatively for having an iPhone. And those who have older models of either smartphone are 56% less likely to get a date.
On a happier note, dating sites are encouraging people to be truthful to facilitate happier dates and, ideally, relationships. Apps like The Grade and Tinder are forcing their members to connect through Facebook to create more transparency about age and real first names. On Facebook, there’s a limit to how many times users can change their birth date. The Grade uses algorithms and members to rank other users on a scale from A+ to F based on quality of messages, photos and description. Those who get a permanent F grade are expelled from the app.
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FEBRUARY 16, 2017 By The Federalist Staff
Ashley McGuire is the author of the new book “Sex Scandal: The Drive to Abolish Male and Female.” McGuire explores some the areas in which culture attempts to deny any differences between sexes and how “gender neutrality” is harming children.
McGuire’s book covers a range of sex and biology issues including bathroom bills, women in the military, children’s toys, and women’s competitive sports. “I think we have second wave feminists to blame for getting us to this point because they were the ones who pushed this idea in the first place,” she said. “They pushed the argument that our maleness and our femaleness is something that’s socialized, that these are arbitrary categories…and we need to eradicate the biological differences.”
From “50 Shades of Grey” to John Legend and Chrissy Teigen, Hollywood knows no limit to double standards. “Suddenly when you have Beyonce or other female stars literally glamorizing violence against women… we are left without any tools to say this is disempowering women when we’re told that whatever choice a women makes, it’s our job to support it,” she said.
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